I dont know who is the speaker, but I find out that his theory is interesting, enjoy:
A Song( Forgive Me) by Ahmed Bukhatir, I love the meaning it brings..
Today, upon a bus
I saw a girl with golden hair
and wished I was as fair
When suddenly she rose to leave
I saw her hobble down the aisle
She had one leg and wore a crutch
But as she passed, she smile
Oh God, forgive me when I whine
I have 2 legs, the world is mine
With feet to take me where I’d go
With eyes to see the sunset’s glow
With ears to hear what I’d know
Oh God, forgive me when I whine
I’ve been blessed indeed
the world is mine
I stopped to buy to buy some candy
The lad who sold it had such charm
I talked with him, he seemed so glad
If I were late, it’d do no harm
And as I left, he said to me
“I thank you, you’ve been so kind
You see,” he said, “I’m blind”
Oh God, forgive me when I whine
I have 2 eyes, the world is mine
With feet to take me where I’d go
With eyes to see the sunset’s glow
With ears to hear what I’d know
Oh God, forgive me when I whine
I’ve been blessed indeed, the world is mine
I saw a child with eyes of blue
He stood and watched the others play
He did not know what to do
I stopped a moment and then I said
“Why don’t you join the others, dear?
He looked ahead without a word
And then I knew, he couldn’t hear
Oh God, forgive me when I whine
I have 2 ears, the world is mine
With feet to take me where I’d go
With eyes to see the sunset’s glow
With ears to hear what I’d know
Oh God, forgive me when I whine
I’ve been blessed indeed, the world is mine
and my fav, Ya Man Yara:
the meaning :
YA MAN YARA (Oh who see!)
Oh! who see the mosquito spread its wings
In the darkness of the black night
And see its vein in its upper chest
And the brain in these thin bones
And see blood running in its jugular vein
Moving from one joint to another
Forgive me
For what I have previously done
And see the embryo nurturing inside it
In the darkness of its innards without looking
And see its footsteps
In its quick and rushing movements
And see and hears other beings
In the bottom of the dark and huge sea
Forgive me
For what I have previously done
Will UNITY happen between Sunni and Shia ? I don’t think so. These filthy acts are done by Badr Brigade.
May ALLAH help us. Ameen.
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Nothing much happens today, still feel tired after went for fishing last Saturday. We got 6 fishes. It is not the fishes that I value most but experiences of being there, spending time with friends after dull hours of living inside an apartment.
I managed to learn few things, on how to hook the bait, controlling the lure and even the types of fishes that we got. Thanks to Dr. Yarn. At night, we went to Ishak’s house, enjoying the fish masala. I brought one but not as tasty as the one cooked by Ishak’s family. Tea is tasty when you put cardamom and ginger inside. I will try it next time.
I am sunburned and exhausted. I will put the pictures soon, insha Allah.
This is a good reminder for me and others. this is quite a long article but I really want you to enjoy it and implement it for the sake of your children. This is taken from Islam Questions and Answer on How to develop Your Kid’s Self Confidence which was absent from me, gradually I am building it back slowly. Alhamdulillah. Here , enjoy..:
At the age of two, a child starts to form her attitude towards the world around her. Some developmental psychologists think that the sense of self-confidence is one of the first of these attitudes and the strength of these feelings at age 2 depends on the kind of care that the child receives and on the parents’ attitude in meeting her basic needs. At this stage the child shows signs of development by showing a desire for independence, as she needs the freedom to speak, walk and play. All of that is connected to the need to assert herself which can only be achieved by allowing her a measure of independence. This is confirmed by the theory of development through maturity which says that we should respect the child’s individuality and leave him or her to develop naturally. Some girls grow up lacking self-confidence so that they cannot rely upon themselves in any matter, major or minor. They rarely take any initiative and are always waiting for someone to say, “Do such and such.” If faced with a problem, such a girl will be unable to take any decision and may try to avoid confronting the problem, or start crying. This is partly the parents’ fault, and it may be for a number of reasons, such as:
Too much control (“Do this, don’t do that”) in major and minor matters alike, even if the matter does not warrant it, so that the child loses her spontaneity and this makes her lose confidence in her actions, and instead she always waits for someone to correct her and reassure her that she is doing the right thing.
Blaming and criticizing her for everything she does, seeking out her faults and rebuking her if she makes a mistake, so that she is blamed and rebuked more than she deserves at the time when she is expecting praise for her efforts. This destroys the child’s motivation to act or to compete in doing anything and doing it well.
Not giving the child the opportunity to speak in front of others for fear that she may make a mistake or speak of things that are not desirable, or else allowing her to speak but telling her what she should say.
Giving her too many warnings about danger, which will make her always expect the worst and imagine that she is surrounded by danger on all sides.
Putting her down or comparing her to others, which makes her think that she has no worth.
Making fun of her and mocking her.
Not paying attention to her questions.
Paying too much attention in a manner that shows excessive worry about her health or her future.
Lack of self-confidence has many negative effects on the child, such as:
1- She will not be able to do anything independently, and if she is asked to bring something and finds that it differs from the description given, she will be hesitant; if she is faced with a problem she will be unable to take a decision.
2- She will become dull-witted and not creative.
3- She will start to complain and feel unhappy whenever anything is asked of her, because she thinks that she will be blamed for whatever she does and that she will not be able to do it in the manner required.
4- She will become weak-willed and will have no resolve, and she will feel meek and apathetic in situations where such attitudes are not appropriate, and will become neglectful and disorganized.
5- She will suffer anxiety and frustration, and will develop a hostile attitude or a tendency to become introverted and withdrawn.
In order to avoid these negative effects on the child, parents should use a number of ways to develop the child’s self-confidence. Some examples follow, but this is not a complete list:
- They should draw up some general guidelines to follow by telling her what Allaah has made permissible, which she may do, and what He has forbidden, which she must avoid. They should make her aware of noble attributes and good manners, and instill in her a dislike for bad manners, deeds and words, and the need to steer clear of trivial matters. Then after that they should give her the freedom to act on her own initiative.
- The mother should assign her some tasks that she is able to do. If she makes a mistake the mother should praise her for her initiative and encourage her, then tell her what she should have done. Sometimes she should just praise her for her efforts, then complete the work in a gentle manner, without telling her directly. If the task is not something that the child is able to do, then the mother may do it and consult the child and ask for her opinion, and let the child state what she thinks is good and is not, so that the child will realize that everyone is vulnerable to making mistakes but also gets things right sometimes. This will strengthen her resolve.
The parents should try to praise the child in front of her relatives and friends, and give her rewards commensurate with her efforts. They should praise her for the acts of worship that she does, such as praying regularly, memorizing Qur’aan, doing well in her studies, having a good attitude, and so on.
They should give her a nickname that will distinguish her from others, but they should not allow anyone to call her by a bad nickname. If she makes them angry they should call her by her real name, so that she will realize that she has fallen short in her duty to one or both of them, or that she has wronged somebody, so that she will realize that.
Strengthening her will-power, by getting her used to two things, namely:
(a) Keeping secrets: when she knows how to keep secrets and not divulge them, then her will-power will develop and grow stronger, and thus her self-confidence will increase.
(b) Getting her used to fasting, for when she stands firm in the face of hunger and thirst when fasting, she will feel the joy of achieving victory over her nafs (self), which will strengthen her will-power when facing life, which in turn will increase her self-confidence.
Strengthening her confidence in dealing with other people. This may be done by getting her to do housework, obeying the parents’ commands, and letting her sit with the adults and get together with other youngsters.
Strengthening her confidence in gaining knowledge, by teaching her the Qur’aan and the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allaah SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), and his Seerah (biography), so that she will grow up having acquired abundant knowledge in childhood, so that she will have a sense of confidence in the knowledge that she has, because she will have gained the basic principles of true knowledge, far removed from myths and legends.
On the other hand, the parents must also take some precautions and take effective measures to save the child from feeling inadequate. Some of the things that cause a child to feel inadequate are: belittling her, humiliating her and mocking her, such as calling her by offensive names and words in front of her siblings and relatives, or even in front of her friends or in front of strangers whom she has never met before. These are matters which may make her regard herself as insignificant and worthless, or may generate psychological complexes that will make her look at others with hatred and dislike, and make her withdraw into herself in order to escape from life.
Even if the offensive words that slip from the parents’ tongues are only for the purpose of disciplining the child for some mistake, great or small, it is not right to use this method to correct her, as this will have a bad effect on the child’s psyche and personal conduct, and it will make her accustomed to the language of condemnation and insult that will destroy her psychologically and morally.
The best way of dealing with this problem is to explain to the child, in a gentle manner, where she has gone wrong and to give her proof that will convince her to avoid the mistake in future; the parents should not scold her, and certainly not in front of others. The parents should use good methods in correcting her from the outset, following the example of the Messenger SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) in the way he reformed and trained people and corrected their mistakes. For the child is very sensitive and readily influenced, irrational and helpless. Building the child’s self-confidence is the first step in building her personality through all stages of life.
We had tornado yesterday, it was here again, the last was 70 years ago. We did not go to shelter. I wanted to go there but we received the news late, and this morning my wife told me that it is still safe to go there when we heard first time the siren, its kind of reminder to find a safe place, poor me, I thought siren means to stay put in your shelter, hide now, don’t go outside, it is not safe anymore…
Until now I did not go out to see, I am pretty sure the damages were enormous and I am reluctant to see it. My head was giddy and vertiginous. My right eye was poked, thrust by Irfan’s finger. I can stay in dark places but not at direct sun lights available, it is watery and it is painful.
We were in the toilet, that’s what I read and that’s what others told me. It is not safe even if the toilet is not in the centre of your house, next time, please be inside the closet, it is in the room, in the centre of our apartment.
She almost cried, fear of death. I did nothing to console her. I just kept quiet. I did mention to her that it is written. Death is written. Nothing to be afraid off, your time will come. You have to be prepared. She agreed but I could she the trembling all over the body. The thought makes me smile and more convince Allah is there and we are a bunch of ungrateful servants. None of us were laughing but today we are. Both of us(in fact all) remember ALLAH most when on the edge of death.Afterthat the thought is gone. Forgive us ALLAH.
My son cried. It is not a fear of death; it was because he felt stuck inside the toilet. NO freedom to watch Dora the Explorer or Blue Clues. I hugged him. I sang a song but that did not help much. Lastly I went out with him and went to bedroom, landed on bed, there is an assurance within my soul that everything will be safe, and I believe ALLAH won’t betray me. It is my hope towards Him.
Half an hour later, the tornado was gone. She went to other towns. First it hit Chapman, then us. KSU was badly injured. Injured by the Tornado.
I am not sleeping yet, it is 338 a.m, if I dozed off, my Fajr would be gone, so I keep my self awake by reading. I don’t know why am I writing this post, usually a reserved man like me will keep all of his personal post password protected, creating a wall so that no one can reach him. Today is the new frontier, a brand new day… a new me…that surprised Nila few days ago.
Who helps me? Allah. Who helps me? Allah..
Alhamdulillah, tabarakallah, masya Allah..( these was taught by Umar Mukhtar The Lion of the Desert aka The Butcher)
I opened books written by my online sheikh. I don’t want to give his name here, because it is his advice, so as a student, I just follow and obey him. I don’t ask him the rationality behind it, but I think I can guess the reasons, the utmost is my safety.
I watched 3 movies and those lead me to this day, a new frontier day, a brand new day.
First is Justice League. The wise man said I got from that is exactly what was written by me in the previous post(please check and search) i.e. Amr ibn Rabiah r.a to Rustum.
Second is Rambo, on my attitude and philosophy towards life… “Isy Kariman Au Mut Syahidan.”. I did tell this to my wife and again, she seems don’t get it as always.
Third is “Gone Baby Gone”. All things reflect back and can lead to conclusion. See it to understand what I am saying.
And lastly, “Reservation Road” so that I wont be nitro and glycerin.